ANDERSON LOPES AFFONSO

Ainda sem acreditar que você partiu. Você foi um homem de coração gigante, que amava a família acima de tudo e que nunca deixava o ambiente triste. Obrigado por todas as risadas e por ter sido esse ser humano incrível. A saudade vai ser eterna, mas as lembranças alegres que você deixou nos consolarão. Vá em paz, cunhado.

Acho que não existem palavras pra descrever a dor de te perder, porque você nunca foi só um parente, você foi o pai que eu nunca tive, o carinho, o cuidado e o apoio que eu mais precisava em tantos momentos. E eu espero, de verdade, que algum dia eu consiga me tornar pelo menos 1% da pessoa que você foi, do homem mais amoroso, paciente e incrível que eu já conheci, alguém que marcou a minha vida de um jeito que nada vai apagar.
Infelizmente nem tudo está no nosso alcance, e você acabou partindo da forma mais injusta do mundo, deixando um vazio enorme que nunca vai ser preenchido. Mas eu quero que você saiba que se eu pudesse fazer qualquer coisa, entregar tudo que eu tenho hoje pra passar nem que fosse só 10 minutos do seu lado, eu faria sem pensar duas vezes. Porque eu sei que, conhecendo todas as pessoas ao meu redor, você era o que menos merecia ter passado por isso, era o que menos devia sofrer, você só merecia paz e amor.
Espero que hoje você descanse, espero que aproveite esse momento sem dor, sem sofrimento, sem medo, e que esteja nos braços de Deus nos vendo daqui, vendo sua família seguindo em frente, tentando ser forte, mas nunca esquecendo do privilégio imenso de ter você na nossa família. Você vive em cada lembrança, em cada ensinamento e em cada pedacinho do amor que deixou aqui. Eu te amo pra sempre, e vou te carregar comigo em tudo o que eu for.

It is with a heavy and shattered heart that I have to say goodbye far sooner than I ever imagined I would dad. Nothing truly prepares you for a moment like this, even though I thought I was ready, I wasn’t . On January 9th, at around four o’clock, God decided that all your suffering would finally come to an end. Surrounded by your family, wrapped in love, your body slowly rested as those last three breaths came to a stop. A moment that feels frozen in time. For almost two years, you fought harder than anyone I have ever known. You faced every obstacle with courage, strength, and faith as you fought against your pain to continue being with us. You were a hardworking father, a loving husband, a devoted brother, and my best friend. Even during the darkest moments, when the pain was unbearable and the days were heavy, you never gave up on fighting for your life, never complained about what was happening in your life, never told us how much it was hurting you because you didn’t want to scare us or allow us to see you in pain. You showed us what true strength looks like not just physical strength, but strength of character, faith, and love, a strength I couldn’t imagine anyone in this world could have. Words will never be enough to explain how heartbroken I am to not have you here, to not have you around. The silence feels too loud. The house doesn’t feel the same knowing I can’t walk into the living room, lay on your lap, and ask for “carinho do papai.” Or that I can’t be in my room but still hear your laughs out loud with Davi as you two were joking about everything, not have you around to comfort me when I’m upset or mad with everything. That simple comfort, that warmth, that sense of safety, those moments were everything to me and I wished I had cherished that more. Losing you broke my heart in ways I didn’t know were possible. What hurts even more is knowing that even in your final days, when you were the one suffering, your thoughts were still about Mom, Davi, and me. You worried about us, how we were going to be without you around. That was who you were always putting others before yourself, even when you had every reason not to. You taught me more than words ever could. You taught me to care deeply for everyone around me even if they didn’t deserve to but as the Bible says “But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back” you thought me to be kind even when it was hard, and to never give up on what I desire. You taught me to know my worth and to stand strong in who I am because as you said I was the bettered version of you. You tried to teach me patience, though we both know that lesson didn’t go very well 😂, but even in that, you showed me love and understanding even when I got aggravated with you when you didn’t deserve. Most importantly, you taught me to follow God’s word, to trust Him, and to never stop believing, even when life feels unfair and moments become unbearably tough. As you never lost your faith when you had all the reason to, you continued to believe in Gods words and never let anything stop you from shifting away from God. I truly was the luckiest girl on this earth to have the father that I had. You were patient, gentle, caring, and loving. You never raised your voice at me, not even when I was frustrated or aggravated with you. Your calmness and kindness spoke louder than any anger ever could. You were a man of God, a man of integrity, someone people admired and looked up to. Your kindness had the power to silence negativity and soften hearts wherever you went. Dad, you were my safe place, my example, my guide. A part of me left with you that day, but I know you live on in everything you taught me, in the faith you planted in my heart, and in the love you gave so freely. I will carry you with me in every step I take, every prayer I say, and every moment I choose kindness over anger because that is what you would do. I can stay days talking about you to others dad. I will always love you and I promise I’ll tell my kids how their grandfather fought till the end to see them, but God had other plans. Forever I will love you